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the biggest thing when you're looking
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for someone to live that long-term life
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with aspire to be with someone who wants
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the role not just want the wedding right
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i found a woman who I knew wanted to be
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a wife So when me being the wedding too
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think this could be true or
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there's duality in everything But when
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you come into it wanting to be a spouse
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you embrace the change Everything Kadine
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went through when she was gaining weight
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through pregnancy I loved it When she
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was losing weight after I loved it When
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she has her attitudes through PMS I love
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it Yeah Do we argue about it yeah we
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argue about it But for me it's like a
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Rubik's cube right how can I solve this
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equation today my wife's not in the best
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space Yeah What can I do to make sure
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that by the end of the day she's in a
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better space cuz if if you're not going
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to do that for your spouse what else you
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going to do be angry sit back and just
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be like I her and no like that Why
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choose that person so for me it was like
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yo whatever changes come with that I'm
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dealing with it You know what would you
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say is the most recent thing that you've
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learned about Kadine or noticed
1:04
something new oh she just started Well
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she came back into her professional bag
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And I realized that I loved the person
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that was dream chasing more than I love
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the wife More than I love the mom Like
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if if I'm being honest it became super
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sexy to me Yeah when she had to do
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outside of the house Oh you going to
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meet with your acting coach oh you going
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to work out oh you got lines to study
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And then it it just felt like I I got my
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partner back cuz at 18 that's what I
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fell in love with That's another
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narrative that I want to put the kibash
1:36
on So many people put the put the uh
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this narrative out there that black men
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for example don't want a black woman
1:43
that has her own We're intimidated by
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that I'm here to tell you that that's
1:47
not the case I second that bro You know
1:49
what I'm saying like come on man Yo yo
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torch you in on this All right Okay PB
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PB Okay All right Okay There is nothing
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like having a partner to when you don't
2:02
want to do some and your wife say I
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got it and you could be like this
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sexy Like I'm so serious Like
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when when I first retired from the NFL I
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told this story all the time I didn't
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know how we was going to make money
2:15
first But she was like "Y'all could do
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makeup." I was like "Bet what you need
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to do is go down to MAC get a job so
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that we can get insurance She was like
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"Bet." Turned her ring inside went to
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get the paper I'm like "That's my homie
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right there." Like I actually took the
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ring off put it in the jewelry box I
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walked to the bus stop and I was I put
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my all black on you know did my face and
2:33
I said "All right I'm going to go to the
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mall and give me a job." Like what do we
2:35
have what do we got to what do we have
2:37
to do right How like how much that fills
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you up as a man when you know like my my
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dog right here could and she's a
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beautiful woman We were 27 when I got
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released At 27 she could have been like
2:52
"You know what i ain't signed up to be
2:53
back in Brooklyn with this doing this
2:54
man I'm gonna go find me somebody else
2:56
I'mma go." But no she was like "Yo what
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are we doing?" Yeah You don't find that
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from people not even just women You
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don't find that from your homies I got
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homies that when I wasn't playing ball I
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ain't hear from them no more Wow So it's
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when you find that person that's going
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to rock with you you got you got to
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stick with them You You got to build
3:14
with that And it's like the most
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beautiful thing ever That's why when I
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see people talking about marriage the
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way they talk about it was crazy I'm
3:19
like "Y'all just married the wrong
3:20
person." Yo we got to use more
3:23
discernment You know what I'm saying cuz
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I love being married I love it We make
