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How to Navigate Life Changes Like a Pro 💡 | SWAY’S UNIVERSE
Apr 16, 2025
Learn how to navigate life changes like a pro with expert advice from licensed mental health counselor David Weber on Sway In The Morning! In this exclusive interview, David breaks down how to mentally adjust to new environments, handle grief from life transitions, and the importance of celebrating yourself. Whether you're starting fresh in a new city, facing personal challenges, or simply looking for inspiration, this conversation is packed with practical tips and heartfelt stories. Join the Sway's Universe crew in their first by-coastal episode as they share personal experiences about moving, change, and growth. Hear from callers like Travis, who opens up about starting over in Atlanta, and discover tools to embrace transformation in your own life. Don’t miss this empowering discussion loaded with insights for anyone navigating new beginnings. Subscribe for more exclusive interviews, life lessons, and uplifting stories from Sway In The Morning! Tune in now and be sure to celebrate yourself today! #DavidWeber #SwayInTheMorning #LifeChanges #MentalHealth #selfimprovement #overcomingadversity #howtonavigatelifetransitions #managingtransitions #futureworkforceskills CHAPTERS: 01:13 - Adjusting to a New Environment 07:24 - Celebrating Yourself 09:24 - Travis from New Jersey 10:37 - Discovering Your Passions 12:11 - Remembering Your Joys 13:43 - How To Contact David Subscribe Here! http://bit.ly/SubscribeSU Watch the Best of Sway In The Morning! http://bit.ly/BestOfSITM
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that's the voice of our
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resident mental health counselor
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licensed licensed professional mental
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health counselor singer
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producer star athlete at Central
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Michigan
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[Applause]
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University let's give it up for the one
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and only David we is back give
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up happy to be here
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man what's going on Tracy's in New York
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that's what you're looking at right now
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Dave you don't realize we got a whole
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new thing going we're by Coastal for
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real I see Tracy DB uh who else Tor you
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can see him waving in what's up what's
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up T is there is uh DJ Tyler there today
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what's up okay there go torch right
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there okay we're all over here so yeah
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so we we we're stationed down here yeah
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you know in La you know you know I'm a
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West Coast dude anyway planet Earth was
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my place of birth though I don't claim
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one region I claim them all but you know
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what it is you know what I mean yeah all
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right when I'm on the west coast that's
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like Clark Kent going in the phone booth
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you know what happens when Clark Kent go
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in the pH when he walks out who is he
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Superman you better act like you
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know go get him he breaks his glasses in
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there he you want to start with David
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yes I do and I'm so happy that you're
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here today and it's ironic that you're
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here today because um as sway mentioned
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we're here on the West Coast and I I I
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remember walking into my apartment for
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the first time this Friday this past
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Friday and was like wow like I live here
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now like legit live here and I moved
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here with just my clothes and just
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getting used to this new environment I
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think mentally I had to sit down for a
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second and just try to figure it all out
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like you know I had I literally starting
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from scratch like I had to buy toilet
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paper and and pots and and different
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things that I'm just not it's a whole
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new environment for me and but I don't
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want to forget about home you know like
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where I come from you know like I was my
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my clock is still set on East Coast to
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and I was like I got to get out of that
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there's little things that I have to
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break so how do you what what advice
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would you give to someone because it
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doesn't necessarily have to be a
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physical move like like I made but just
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going into a new environment you know
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like how do you adjust mentally you know
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starting fresh starting new yeah new
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environment new relationship anything
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that's new you're going to experience
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neighbors like just new neighbors you're
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going experience grief just so you know
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ahead of time okay yeah yeah yeah you
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experience grief anything that's new
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even if it's something great and good
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right like going from high school to
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college you experience the grief of
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losing friends or going different places
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going to different spaces right so the
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same thing going from New York to La La
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is wonderful was beautiful but you're
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still going to experience some grief
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from not being there right and then all
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new things new clothes new whatever make
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pots and pans and everything else so on
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one hand you're experiencing Joy on the
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other hand there's some grief that
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you're experiencing too so there's some
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of you out there who are listening and
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maybe you broke up in a relationship or
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maybe You' just moved or or or maybe
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someone in your family died or something
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like that right it so grief doesn't just
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come from Death it's also the death of a
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situation death of a relationship the
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death of Separation separation okay I
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felt that way um because my departure
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from New York was rather uneventful
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right on purpose right I didn't no party
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no nothing okay I I want to I didn't
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want to you know wait you mean this time
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cuz you actually had two so because
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initially you came from Los Angeles to
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New York that's true 25 years ago 25
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years ago and now 25 years later like
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after you built an entire life in New
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York yeah a world a world we actually
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rekindled our relationship when he moved
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to New York the first three months he
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was there he walked into my best
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friend's basement I'm like what are you
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doing here like
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sway you know what I mean so now he's
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back here so that's a different kind of
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grief or or or feelings yeah I mean so
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you didn't have a anything no party no I
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did you said it was on purpose yeah
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because I didn't do that when I left LA
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to come to New York I didn't want to put
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put it on that pedestal I just wanted to
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to be a part of the journey right okay
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but I will admit leaving New York for me
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has been a little sadder yeah than when
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I left LA to go to New York cuz you know
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you know I didn't live in LA as long I
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haven't lived anywhere as long as I
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lived in New York right and so I'm
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playing it nonevent I didn't I didn't
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live in Oakland As Long As I lived in
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New York right crazy so I'm keeping it
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non-eventful because we come out here
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all the time I got a home out here I got
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my my my network out here but we ain't
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been side by side for 25 years so when I
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was on the plane I was like oh
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[Â __Â ] I was like oh this is really I'm
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feeling something right now David you
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know and so I landed I just worked this
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whole weekend doing our beats and bars
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competition show so I didn't get a
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chance to deal with it so last night I
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walk in a new apartment which is amazing
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space m and I felt a little sadness it
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hit you then yeah until I laid on that
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brand new mattress with the new sheets
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and then I forgot about it but I'm just
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saying you know it so that's what that
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is I couldn't explain that and so
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talking to my friends they're like we
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got to do this we got to do that we got
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to do this I'm like hold up man yeah let
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me deal with this transition yeah before
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anything that's smart to do it yeah for
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sure did you do you celebrate birthdays
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do you are you a person who celebrates
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things or no no no okay I celebrate your
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things but not your own I celebrate I
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feel so great I'm so gracious about the
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gift that God has given me yeah you know
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I'm like I'm just thankful for him I
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don't do do you do you mind if I
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challenge you this week both of you
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actually myself included um my brother's
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like this he he won't celebrate he won't
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celebrate anything his birthday was the
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other day I called him left a voicemail
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and said hey man it's your birthday I
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know you're not going to celebrate I'm
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telling you right now go out and do
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something because we're so used to
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working we're so used to doing we're so
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used to being productive and and head
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you know keep marching right and just
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going forward that we don't often don't
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take time to be like you know what I did
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my thing in New York like it would have
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been dope if you would celebrated like
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you know what I did my thing here we had
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an amazing time I met amazing people and
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let people come and celebrate you you
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just said something very positive mean
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very very important you celebrate other
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people the question becomes will you let
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people celebrate you will you put
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yourself in position so we can come
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together and celebrate you and your life
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and everything you've done for everyone
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else you two Heather be and um so that's
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important taking those moments and
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celebrating yourself if you at home
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right now celebrate yourself today today
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celebrate yourself today party of one
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celebrate yourself today I like that so
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does this mean David that you're going
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to if I let you celebrate me you're
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going to get the venue you're going
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to don't know how work got I I'm only on
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the other side side okay I got you you
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see I got you okay all right Taco I got
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you okay Tracy G what are your thoughts
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about
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this uh I have interesting thoughts I
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think that that I would have to share
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the majority of them off air I don't
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know if they'll be best shared on air
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when I think about a lot um as it
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pertains to me but everything that you
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guys are sharing right now makes a lot
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of sense I don't think people
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have looked at it through the lens of
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grief you know and letting go of when
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change happens in your world is a little
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bit upside down whether it's your choice
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or or not your choice so I'm always a
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fan of self-reflection to be like okay
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how can I bless something and then let
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it go how can I bless something and and
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welcome it so I think it's a beautiful
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practice okay all right that's Tracy man
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uh we got some people on the phone lines
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and Mike News is here too I see him just
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just really thinking about his own life
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and all the changes that's happened in
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the travel that he's done right but the
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thing that you guys were talking about
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um I think David is so right about
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celebrating yourself I always make sure
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I do that that because I think everyone
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in this room can attest how hard life is
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and really how hard media and
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entertainment is I actually I don't mind
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admitting I actually cried yesterday um
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at the Oscars right at the moment when
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Cynthia Revo started singing home there
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was just something so beautiful about it
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and then I just couldn't believe I was
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there right I couldn't believe I was
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still there I couldn't believe I was
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still getting the invite and what most
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people don't know sway H the be knows is
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but I was going to the Oscars prior to
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ABC so I wasn't at the Oscars because of
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ABC I was there because of myself and so
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to do that as your own brand as your own
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entity is almost impossible to do and so
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I celebrated the moment I allowed those
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tears to fall right and to say I'm still
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here I'm still standing and I was so
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thankful for that moment and then you
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snap back and you get into the presence
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of everything but I made sure I took in
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that moment and I didn't take that
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moment for granted good for you Mike all
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right we got Travis on the line thank
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you for sharing and he's from New Jersey
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and he moved you moov from Jersey to
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Atlanta
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Travis hey tra or you want to how y'all
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doing great how about you
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man good man good just trying to
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navigate my new life I um been in Jersey
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my whole life I'll be 50 at the end of
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this month my uh my father passed away
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about two years ago my mother-in-law
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passed away six months
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later and me and my fin lived in Georgia
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so me and the wife decided to uh do a
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reset come out here and start all
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over and um she came out a couple months
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before I did she decided to go back to
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nursing school she got a new job the
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first one the first one or two didn't
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hit this one did she she found a home
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she's she likes it and uh me I'm just
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still trying to find my way I'm trying
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to do uh I'm not even sure what I'm
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trying to do I had a landscape business
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in Jersey I'm trying to transition and
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do something completely different out
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here and uh really don't know where to
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start just trying to figure it
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out all right David you want to talk to
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yeah yeah so um what let me ask you this
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question what do you enjoy
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doing
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um I love hip-hop music like I mean I I
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love the culture but I you know I don't
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rhyme I don't produce I don't do
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anything like that uh pretty good with
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talking to people very person able
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person uh what
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else that's it man I'm pretty I'm pretty
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easy going I just the thing I've been
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doing I've been going for years so it's
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like I don't even know where to start
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you know what I mean so so one of the
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things I do with my clients all the time
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is I start from a a blank sheet of paper
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and just talk about what do I enjoy
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doing most people forget what they enjoy
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you work at a job you don't necessarily
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like anymore you maybe you live in a
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city you don't necessarily like to live
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in whatever it may be so we forget what
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we actually like and so I would start
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with a blank piece of paper I don't care
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if it's cartoons I don't care if it's
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cereal I don't care what it is write
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down what you like don't get ahead of
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yourself and try to figure out what that
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means okay I'mma start eating more
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cereal not necessarily um what it means
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is just write down everything so I may
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write down I love basketball well I
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can't play basketball anymore right but
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how many jobs are in the basketball
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realm there's a GM there's a scout
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there's all of things don't requ you to
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play basketball so from a from a basic
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standpoint what things bring me joy what
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things bring me happiness write those
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things down and start from there because
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sometimes we just
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forget you got that Travis you got that
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yeah yeah yeah no that's a nice way to
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start that's I said I love I love
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hip-hop I love music I'm a I'm love the
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culture but I don't I can't do anything
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don't write no raps dog that ain't where
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you at yeah I think I think to Mike's
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Point what Mike said about even David
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brought up a good thing though it's like
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don't say you can't do anything he said
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there's other things in it or around it
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maybe you can start your own you know
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website or or or podcast about what you
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loved about hip hop you know who was
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your favorite artist like we're W we're
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losing so many people at this point you
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know um we we saluted Angie Stone this
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morning but look where her root started
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you know she started in Hip Hop you
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there's a lot to do in like you said in
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the field that you love it doesn't
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always have to be a producer or a rapper
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there's other things to do um in in this
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in this well that we have a hip hop so
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maybe there's something there for you
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Travis but don't just say I can't do
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anything because David just said
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otherwise absolutely I I love that
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you're right we our negative selft talk
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sometimes is is really bad mind included
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um so start with this blank sheet of
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paper write down everything you enjoy I
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would also say get out man this is for
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everyone out there listening get out and
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walk Walking is incredible for for
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emotions and how you feel like when
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you're walking and you're moving you're
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less likely to feel depressed you're
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less likely to feel down um you're more
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likely to feel optimistic about your
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life and everything you have going on
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man give it up for David Weber I want
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you to give out your information man
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citizens you can hit him directly he
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promised me for sure you can hit him and
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he'll get back with you and he won't
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invoice you on that first
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call that's just the first one though I
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can't you know can't get past that the
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easiest way and quickest way to get in
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contact with me is David Weber
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LPC um on Instagram that's David Weber
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LPC on Instagram I'll respond today hit
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me up if you have any questions if
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you're looking for resources in your
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area whatever it may be I got you Travis
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thank you for your honesty you're you're
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a super citizen man way morning and good
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luck in ACL um you're welcome um David I
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want to thank you for flying out here of
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course this is where it's at how long
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you out here uh tomorrow maybe or maybe
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the next day I'm not sure you come back
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on the show tomorrow we can give you
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some more time oh word okay just just
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wrapped up fairly quickly okay for sure
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it's our first day in our permanence
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here in LA
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